Friendships and relationships are not always smooth sailing. Sometimes fights occur and feelings are hurt. When conflicts do arise, can you easily forgive and forget?
Although it’s taken me a few failed relationships and friendships to realize the power of forgiveness, learning to let go and forgive has allowed me to handle arguments in a much more mature and stable manner. Here are a few points that I like to consider before hurling fireballs and wizard spells in the “fight game.”
Think before you speak: Sometimes, in the heat of the moment, anger will get the best of you. We say things we don’t mean and as a result, connections become broken. Before you hit the red alert button or fly off the rails, so to speak, step away from an argument (for a few minutes or longer) and think about your response. It doesn’t matter if you need to leave the room or go for a jog – taking a few minutes to think it over will help downshift your ego from threat level midnight to threat level fairy dust. By doing this, you can ensure that whatever you choose to say or do, will come from your most authentic self.
Step-up: If you’ve just crashed and burned in any type of relationship, take a few days (or longer) to regroup, and then address the problem at hand. Life is short; don’t wait forever to apologize. You just never know what tomorrow will bring. None of us are perfect and sometimes emotions get the best of us. Just remember that apologizing isn’t a weakness, it’s strength. Step up!
Move on: Moving on doesn’t mean you have to cut someone out of your life. It could just mean that you remove them from your inner circle of friends until you’ve sorted yourself out. If the other party is to blame, then it’s up to you whether or not that connection is deep enough to salvage. Sometimes it isn’t, and that’s ok. If it is, reach out and see why they acted in that particular way. If they can’t take responsibility for their actions, then maybe it’s best you walk away. Just make sure you move on without looking back in anger.
How people treat you is their karma; how you react is yours ~Wayne Dyer